The psychoanalytic / psychodynamic approach seeks, simply putting it, to bring unconscious material together with consciousness. This is not always a pleasant process, because the unconscious contains many feelings and phantasies that were repressed because they were perceived as dangerous when we were little children. Actually, this is why they have become unconscious in the first place… This is why the task of psychoanalytic-therapy is a bit like that of a detective. Dreams, exaggerated or inappropriate feelings, emotions, and anxieties are some of the clues that we trace down in the search for the unknown. In the end of the psychoanalytic-therapy you will have a good understanding of your emotional patterns and you will be able to take control over your counterproductive behavior and negative feelings (or lack of feelings).
In order to succeed, psychoanalytic-therapy needs to establish a safe realm of communication. Within this structured relationship, old patterns of behavior can come up and be detected. In the process, you will learn that
the therapist is reliable and that he is sincerely interested in understanding your inner life. This curiosity and openness is often a completely different experience than what you had ever had before. It starts a process, in which
unconscious deep parts of the personality realize that it is safe to finally come out and express themselves. This can be in dreams that begin to appear, feelings and emotions, new memories that suddenly show themselves, or old
ones that now make sense with a new meaning.
In the psychoanalytic-therapy, there is room for everything and anything that goes in the mind or body. We leave politically correctness outside the room. You are encouraged to look inside and tell how it feels, and what goes on in your mind. This is, of course, easier said than done. It is rare to grow up with parents who fully accept their children as they are, and all children learn to hide parts of themselves in order to win the love of their caregivers upon whom they are dependent. Freeing oneself from this self-destructive shame is one of the goals of psychotherapy.
Since we are working to achieve structural change in the personality and to reach an inner harmony in areas in life which are of the most concern to you, psychoanalytic-therapy is not a quick fix; it requires patience over
time. It is an inner adventure into the depths of the soul, and it can be very rewarding. In order to make the therapy emotionally meaningful, I recommend frequency of twice a week.