Better understanding of self and others - Find your Balance
Psychotherapy is not an intellectual process. Still in my experience, understanding can support change, and therefore it is important to me that you will also have an undearstanding of what we are doing, which means that
I do include psychological education in the work with my client.
The idea is to come to the sessions without an agenda. It is the only place where you are encouraged to be your true-self without any censoring. Simply describe whatever comes to mind, including toughts feelings and sensations. One of the great gifts of psychotherapy is the possibility to be free from fears of rejection. As a psychotherapist, I am merely curious to understand together with you what are the internal forces that are preventing you from behaving and feeling like you would like, and in a way that is joyful to you.
And of course, interpretation of dreams (if you can remember some of them) is an important aspect of a psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Dreams reveal the inner world in which we live also when we are awake.
I am happy to work with English speakers. If you are looking for an English speaking therapist in Vienna, please schedule a free consultation without a commitment.
The purpose of psychotherapy is to create a safe place where you can gradually feel more and more comfortable to be yourself. This enables hidden aspects of the personality such as repressed feelings to come out, and this initiates a process of integrating them into conscious experience. The psychotherapist is not smarter than the client and he cannot know better than the client what is best for him or her. His goal is merely to support you in developing a coherent sense of identity and inner peace.
Psychotherapy is a special relationship with the therapist; it’s a psychological adventure. It requires certain courage to look into yourself with the wish to understand what drives you and realize that your feelings always make sense. Without self-knowledge, self-love is not possible: how can you love that which you do not know? Loving oneself is also the prerequisite to love others. The more you understand and accept yourself, the more you can understand and accept others.
In psychoanalytic psychotherapy, we want to look inside into the depths of the personality to bring change. If you are not curious about getting to know who you really are, for good or for worse, then psychoanalytic psychotherapy is probably not your best choice. Looking at a mental mirror is not always pleasant, but if you want to accept yourself so that you can then relate to others, then knowing what you need to accept is the first step in the adventure that we call life. To benefit from psychoanalytic oriented psychotherapy, you need to have the patient of someone who is going to fitness center without expecting instant results. It does not mean that the psychological benefits are not felt quite rapidly to some degree, but the greatest satisfaction comes after you have been willing to do some work.
Many years ago, Sigmund Freud discovered that we are influenced by forces that are within our personality but to the most part are unknown, unconscious to our mind. We rejected these ideas in the beginning of life because of fears
that no longer make sense in the life of an adult, but, until they are made conscious, these fears and fantasies continue to influence our behaviors and relationships. Tragically, large part of our mental energy is wasted on inner
conflicts, while consciously we feel drained, tensed, anxious, depressed, etc. The more energy is repressed, the more we repeat emotional patterns from the past and the less effective we can be in the present moment. Through psychoanalytic oriented psychotherapy in Vienna you will discover new emotional roads inside yourself to deal with challenges. I am convinced that in each of us there is self-healing power waiting to be discovered.
For the psychotherapy to become emotionally more significant and effective, I recommend a frequency of two 50 minutes appointments per week, if possible.
"It's a joy to be hidden, but a disaster not to be found."
For psychoanalytic psychotherapy to be successful, it is important that the work is not only intellectual, but also emotional. Working with an english speaking psychotherapist is an opportunity for you as an expat in Vienna to experience emotions that for many reasons remain blocked otherwise in your life. Repressed emotions are precious energy that serves any form of relationships and self-esteem once they are released. As long as these emotions remain repressed, they will drain your energy and make you anxious, needy, and unhappy.
As humans, we are born prematurely when we are still too weak even to hold our head straight. This makes us completely dependent on our caregivers for an extended period of time, compared to other animals. The result is that feelings of dependency can trigger a lot of pain that has been accumulated in those early years. Of course, the more accepting the parents were towards who we really wanted to be as little children, the less frightening feelings of dependency have become for us. But for many people, escaping any feeling of dependency influences their lives without they even being aware of it. This can have negative consequences on the relationships and careers because those who cannot tolerate any sense of dependency end up being loners and isolated. Fear of dependency is often an obstacle to talk to a therapist, but in a complex culture that neglects the inner world, talking to a psychotherapist instead of insisting on "doing it alone" is a courageous way to confront and overcome the dependency complex.