International Coaching Federation

Personal Coaching

What is systemic life coaching?

Let me start with what systemic coaching is not. It is not about assuming that I am smarter than you are, that I can make your decisions for you, or that as a coach I possess some secret knowledge with all the answers to life questions. I will not dare, and you should not expect me, to make your decisions for you or tell you how to behave with your partner or with your boss.

Every person is part of family, social and professional systems that are influencing the quality of his life and his mental health. In systemic coaching, we view the individual situation from a broader perspective of the direct and indirect systems that are involved, and the interaction between them. Actually, as a person, you also have several systems such as feelings, emotions, values, skills, etc. We will make sure that in the process of decision-making, all aspects are given the proper attention.

In the end, lifecoaching is about supporting you in getting to know yourself better, so that you can be sure that you are living to your full potential. What is your situation? What are your strengths/weaknesses? What are your dreams? What stands in your way to make them happen?

Some of the benefits to expect from personal coaching are:

  • Realistic evaluation of current situation and future goals
  • Better understanding of own inner conflicts and the way they are influencing your life
  • Improving communication skills 
  • Increasing resilience and stress tolerance
  • More Self-awareness and authenticity 
  • Extending perspectives on problems in relationships
  • Support in making important decisions

The duration of a coaching session is approximately 90 minutes. In the beginning of each session, we will set realistic goals to achieve on that day. Of course, there is always room for flexibility and perhaps the goals will be fine-tuned as the session proceeds. We will work to establish a fun and relaxed atmosphere to explore the situation from a systemic approach. Everyone has blind spots, especially in viewing oneself. Someone else can always point out to additional factors within your blind spots that deserve consideration. You might be surprised to realize that you have more resources available to you than you have imagined. At the end of the session, we will summarize what we have done and decide what can be done to make further progress.  

Coaching is not psychotherapy but the encounter between coach and client is very powerful on emotional and cognitive levels. For example, with the right questions or reframing, the coach can help in reaching new insights or in seeing things differently. With my passion for psychoanalysis combined with goal-oriented approach of systemic coaching, we will work towards becoming clearer on your path to achieve your most urgent goals. Getting to know your own inner world on the one hand and your external systems on the other, will let you make the most rational decisions about your future.

Being a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF) ensures that my training stands for the highest standards of the coaching profession.